China is (temporarily) back on hold

Home sweet home. For now.

Home sweet home. For now.

Ever since we decided to put our house up for sale one week ago, it’s been a non-stop, fun-filled, seven days of staying up until all hours of the morning in preparation for any possible showings.

I can handle a couple severely late nights in a row, even though our kids don’t have the decency to sleep in past 7:00am, but this has been nearly a solid week of working from anywhere between 1:00am and 4:30am each night, and I don’t think my brain can keep up with this pace.

All this to say… processing of my China pics has been temporarily put on hold.

Hey, I’m not procrastinating this time – I just had to make restitution for approximately ten years worth of previous household procrastination in only one week.

Hopefully it pays off, because thanks to a lot of hard work from Denise, and our friends Mike & Julie, we have had three showings in the past two days, and after the house being officially on the market for just a few days.

I’m sorry, China – please forgive me. I haven’t forgotten about you, honest!

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China can wait no more

View from our hotel room in Nanchang

The view from our hotel room on our first morning in Nanchang.

I think I know why I have taken so long to post photos from our China trip to meet our daughter, Libby.

Plain ol’ fear.

I am afraid many of my shots did not turn out as nice as the picture above. But that is a reality, and that’s okay.

I’m afraid, since I waited so long, expectations from our new China travel friends will be high, and I will disappoint them when they see some of my shots of their loved ones. But that’s silly.

I took many, many photos during our 2-week visit, in the hopes that a few of them would turn out okay. I think some did, so it’s time to get over myself and start sharing them with you.

Enjoy.

A big thank you to Denise, Alison, and my mom, for constantly pushing me (not nagging me) to start working on this little project.

 

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Email inbox update

Unread message count updateAs mentioned in my first post on this blog, I have a problem with my email. Actually, I am the problem. I simply tend to leave my Inbox full of Unread messages.

However, the clean-up initiative is going remarkably well.

If you notice the number in the image to the left, I’ve managed to reduce my Unread message count from 10,203 down to a measly 2,295 – a whopping reduction of 7,908 messages. At this pace, with my projected clean-up average of 100 messages per day, and another 31 days remaining until I’m scheduled to return to the office, it looks almost… possible.

Procrastinators, unite. It looks like a leopard can change its spots.

Thanks to Tamara for giving me a little reminder about this by asking how it was going.

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Another happy day

The Chaissons (Matthew and Anne)

As mentioned in a previous post, when my daughter Libby tries to say, “happy birthday,” it gets cut short and turns into a more convenient (for her), “happy day.”

This comes in handy, because there are more happy days in life than just birthdays. For example, take Matthew and Anne Chaisson’s wedding day. It was an absolutely perfect day, and everything was done quite tastefully. Compliments (and thanks) to the many hands that went to work to pull it off without a hitch.

This truly was, a happy day.

The happy day couple makes their exit

View from the Chaisson's backyard.

A perfect way to end the day. (View from the Chaisson's backyard.)

 

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Happy day

Mom's Red Velvet Cake

Any day is a happy day, when you get to dine on red velvet cake.

I recently celebrated my 45th birthday (I know, I can’t believe it either) at my mom’s, and over the years it’s become family tradition to commemorate the day with Red Velvet Cake. (If you haven’t tried it, you really have no idea what you’re missing.)

The week prior to my big day, Denise and I traveled to New Hampshire for a couple days, and en route we stopped to chow down at a little restaurant called The Eagle’s Nest, just before Bangor, Maine. While eating, my ears perked up when I overheard a woman at the table next to us mention, you guessed it, red velvet cake.

She described how her mother used to make it, and once she passed away, her recipes disappeared with her, because she made everything from memory. So now, when her grandkids ask her to make red velvet cake, she tells them she can’t, because great-grammy was the only one who knew how to make it, and this lady has been unable to find a red velvet cake recipe – especially the icing part – that even comes close to her mom’s.

I hummed and hawed on whether I should say anything, but just before the woman and her group of friends got up to leave, I said, “Excuse me. I don’t mean to be nosy, but I couldn’t help overhearing you talking about red velvet cake.” I went on to explain about our family birthday tradition, and my mom’s recipe, and that maybe it was similar to what she was looking for (these days, many folks use cream cheese in the icing, but the traditional method involves butter, and it can be tricky to get it looking and tasting just right). She gave me her address, so now I just need to print a copy of the picture you see here and send it, along with the recipe. (I’ll keep you posted, if anything more comes of it.)

So where does “happy day” come from? Well, on my birthday I was trying to get my then 17-month old daughter, Libby to say “happy birthday”, and three syllables in one sentence seems to be her maximum. But she got it right, because any day I get to eat mom’s red velvet cake is indeed, a happy day.

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My kind of party

Old barnWhile visiting Denise’s family in Debert this past Labor Day weekend, we were invited to a birthday party for Cooper (4), Denise’s cousin Erin’s son. The lighting inside wasn’t particularly favorable for child photography (there’s no way I could’ve kept up with Cooper anyway), so I left my camera in the car.

But on the way out, and after a few of the cars moved out of the driveway, I saw this barn in the backyard just screaming to be photographed, and in black & white (more like in sepia), of course. That’s when the party – for me – really got underway.

Thanks, Erin!

 

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What you need

As far as words go to potentially motivate a procrastinator like myself, this post from Seth Godin’s blog back on February 9, 2011 is the best thing I’ve read in a long time.

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Sometimes it’s smarter to procrastinate

Hot cookies

To procrastinate or not to procrastinate? Who cares - just give me some cookies, please.

Sometimes it’s smarter to procrastinate, but no one ever accused me of being smart.

I love to bake. And I love most (but not all) cookies. But depending on where you live, summer isn’t always the best time to be working in the kitchen.

Yesterday it got warm in our house, and that was before I decided to stop putting off trying a new chocolate chip cookie recipe I’d recently found. Sure, I was at the grocery store earlier and could have picked up a few boxes of all different types of chocolate chip cookies… but I wanted to try these. I mean, come on – one of the ingredients was instant pudding!

I fired up the oven and put my sweat into those cookies. (Okay, not literally! Yucky.)

Maybe a real procrastinator would have waited until a much cooler day (or until winter). That’s the thing about procrastinators – we can be quite logical thinkers, although sometimes a craving can take over. Besides, why should I procrastinate on something that’s going to make me suffer?

So… is it worth it to turn your oven on when it’s already approaching 90 degrees F in the house and you have no A/C? Depends on whether or not you’re convinced you’re related to this guy.

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Building momentum

Can a procrastinator even build momentum?

If you’re a procrastinator like me, the most difficult part about not putting things off is getting started. But when I have the time, and I’m really ‘into’ working on a project, there’s not much that I’ll stop for.

The trick then is finding what motivates you, because once you’ve built momentum, there should be no stopping you.

In his Nonstop Awesomeness blog, Nathan Agin shares How 58 Creative, Positive and Productive Dynamos Build Momentum.

I’ve collected the tips that spoke to me (see excerpts below), but you can also click here to read Nathan’s post (and the complete list) to hopefully discover some pointers that reach you.

 The daily practice that has helped me maintain momentum with Tiny Buddha is reflecting and meditating on my “why.”  Lori Deschene - Tiny Buddha

I learn from everything. When I do something right, I learn from that and apply it to the next thing I try. When I fail, that’s the best learning opportunity of all.  Leo Babauta – Zen Habits

I build momentum in my life by taking time each day to remember why I am doing this work and the impact it will have on people I care about. Taking time to answer the “Why” about my work helps me with the “How.”  Pamela Slim – Escape from Cubicle Nation

Write a blog post every day.  Seth Godin – siteSquidooThe Domino Project

I’ve learned that I have to do the hard stuff and the important stuff first. That is, I start the day by tackling the things that matter most. Then, no matter what happens the rest of day, I know I’ve accomplished something worthwhile.  JD Roth – Get Rich SlowlyAwesome People

In life, I talk to my family about our goals, where we are and where we are headed. I even talk to my 17 month old son about the future, and although he probably can’t understand most of the words I’m saying to him, it’s a huge momentum builder because I don’t want to let him down.  Pat Flynn – Smart Passive Income

The one thing that I do every day that many might say is the anti-thesis of building momentum is that I answer as much email as a I can. For example, your email! Many people believe that answering email is inefficient and ineffective. I believe it’s very hard and very effective. Few people do this. That’s what makes the people who do answer email enchanting.  Guy Kawasaki – siteEnchantment

I write down one awesome thing every night. It doesn’t matter if it’s the smell of gasoline, high fiving a baby, or fixing electronics by smacking them — just remembering that we’ve always got something to be thankful for helps me feel good about my day.  Neil Pasricha – 1000 Awesome Things

Simple: connecting with people daily. Genuinely connecting with people – and looking for ways to help them – had paid so many wonderful dividends back to me (business and personal).  Baker – Man vs. Debt

Doing something I care about every day.  Amber Rae - Revolution.isThe Domino Project

A big part of momentum, in my personal experience, is convincing your mind that what you’re doing is potentially valuable. If you’re pursuing something random, or something you’re not really in a good position to succeed at, your mind has a way of recognizing this and reacting with procrastination. One of the best defenses against this type of mental road block is start by getting good at something valuable. From this foundation it’s easy to build momentum. Many people avoid this foundation construction stage, however, because getting good at something is not always fun and exciting on the day to day scale.  Cal Newport – Study Hacks

Here’s my own primary ritual: begin each day by doing the most important activity — the one’s that most challenging and has the most power to add value — first. Choose the activity before you go to sleep the night before, so you won’t waste time thinking about it when you sit down the next morning.  Tony Schwartz – The Power of Full EngagementThe Energy Project

My one simple daily practice is walking around the block. It puts me back in my body and changes my perspective every time… My best ideas come to me (often fully formed) on walks or in the shower.  Andrea Scher – Mondo BeyondoSuperhero Journal

The one thing I do each day to help me build momentum is reiterate confidence. I’ve learned that the more confident I am, the better everything is around me, both from work to my personal life. So each day I find a way to engrain my confidence in my head even more.  Sean Ogle – Location 180Location Rebel

As for “building momentum” this is assuming that direction has been determined. Otherwise it’s simply spinning wheels. And yet sometimes we’ve got to simply start where we are. Here’s what I’ve done in the past.

Get curious — What am I interested in? Where does my curiosity go? What sounds fun? Open this channel of communication within yourself. Be wiling to acknowledge that you want to learn and explore things. Sometimes we shut down our curiosity if doesn’t seem like we’ll make money doing it or it’ll change our life in some way. Screw it. Open up the flow of curiosity.

Identify one thing you can do today/this week that will be a step in that direction — Keep it simple. It might be edgy. It might be a little boring. It should not be terrifying. If it’s terrifying, make the step smaller. Make sure it’s measurable. Give it a deadline. Follow through. Get it done.

Repeat — keep identifying the next steps based on what you’re curious about. Keep following through. Step by step. Hire a coach to accelerate your process. Tell friends what you’re doing. They’ll ask you about it and this will inspire you to continue to make progress. Make the process fun and you’ll want to stay engaged. When you fall off, get back on.  Tripp Lanier – The New Man Podcast

There are two daily things that really help me build momentum in my life and various careers.

First of all, I have a google doc in which I write down what I did every day towards my career. This helps me ensure that I do at least one thing every day towards my goals, even it’s small. It’s stunning how quickly these little things add up.

I also make sure that when I wake up before checking my email, phone, or even opening my computer, that I do one thing that I want to do. It’s so easy to start reacting to the things other people are throwing at you, that taking even 10 minutes to stretch, write in your journal, read, whatever…makes all the difference in the world. Starting the day on your terms has a profound effect.  Ben Whitehair – actorPlaybills vs. Paying Bills

A practice that I do on a daily basis to keep myself focused and continue to build momentum towards my goals is I take a few minutes to just sit down and concentrate on nothing but my breathing in and out. I often do this several times a day. It helps me to relax and also to clear my mind of unnecessary worries, which puts my focus on things that are actually important.  Nate Damm – Nate Walks America

Maybe not a staple for some but I’ve found it to be of great value for me and that is daily prayer. Prayer in the morning (and night if I’m especially proactive) allows me to focus on the 3 most important things in my life, taking care of my family, taking care of my family, taking care of my family. Take that away and I’d be a man without a purpose but focus on it and it has a ripple effect across all other facets of my life, helping me to set a better sail toward all of my goals.  Josh Roa – 80-Day Millionaire

Hands down, I pray. It keeps me grateful for what I have, focused on what’s important, and inspired to make a difference. It reminds me that I’m neither as important or terrible as I think I am sometimes, and that I’m not in this alone.  Jason Kotecki – Escape Adulthood

The one thing I do each day to build momentum is reaching out- every day I find even small ways to connect with others and it totally energizes me.  I either make it a point to shoot a text to an old friend to check in, or I’ll take a few minutes to write to someone I find online to build connections.  Every nugget of wisdom or word of encouragement from another person (no matter how it arrives) seems to lead to even greater connection and inspiration and builds a strong network I adore.  Shannyn Allan – Frugal Beautiful

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She doesn’t wait for me

This is my daughter, Libby.

She’s not a procrastinator like her papa.

When she wants to do something, it happens. And no matter what you say or do to her, she’s already got her mind made up, and she wants to do whatever it is she’s set her mind to.

The orphanage in China had a word to describe this character trait of hers: obstinate.

I think it will serve her well in later life, especially if we change the word to something a tad more impressive, like: determined.

You can learn a lot from your kids… at any age.

Taken six flights up, at the top of the 'lighthouse' at the Masstown Market in Debert. Libby was a little hesitant about being there at first, but as you can tell from the other photos, she adjusted quickly.

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